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Q: That’s obviously problematic. How do you connect it to the bigger conversations we’re having about consent, sexual assault, being a bystander? It's definitely a good, well-worn, tried-and-true route to hooking up with a guy that you want," Julie says. "It's not giving him a lap dance and stripping on a pole for him, but it's showing him that you can be open, and if that's what he likes, that's what you'll do. Which makes him think you're better to sleep with than the 100 other girls in the room with you." When girls talk to me about kissing each other at parties, it's invariably in the context of boys chanting "Kiss, kiss!" says Sabrina Weill, former editor in chief of Seventeen and author of "The Real Truth About Teens and Sex." "There's no formal research that asks girls whether it's happening more now. However, anecdotally, it does seem to be talked about more." Precise numbers may not be available, but a well-publicized National Center for Health Statistics study released in September 2005 found that 10.6 percent of girls age 15-19 had had same-sex sexual experiences; the survey did not ask whether the conduct was a result of actual desire, though. In any event, girl-on-girl action seems to be no big deal for high school and college students, who shrug it off as standard party behavior. Alexandra says she sees it at "75 to 85 percent" of the parties she attends. Jay, a 17-year-old senior at a Manhattan high school, says he sees it at "every other party." Alexandra's friend Mikey, 19, also in Bellingham, says such action has been a party staple since he was 14. "Just about every party I go to or have, I see girls making out with each other," he says.
Q: You point to that infamous Britney Spears and Madonna kiss more than a decade ago at the MTV Awards. Was that the beginning of this?
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A: That’s the message – I’ll do anything for the boy, so I’ll subject myself to all kinds of behaviour I’m not comfortable with, I’ll do that for you, I’m willing to do almost anything for you. That’s maybe not the message we want to give to our adolescents and young women. In fact, most of the 12 people interviewed for this article cited the "American Pie" movies and the wildly successful "Girls Gone Wild" DVD franchise -- in which a film crew stations itself at a popular collegiate drinking spot (Spring Break destinations, Mardi Gras et al.) and films drunken females getting it on -- as driving the trend. "I definitely got the idea from 'Girls Gone Wild,'" says Alexandra's friend Mikey, who first saw two girls making out at a party when he dared them to. When he was a freshman in high school in Washington, he says, he tried it. "I had these two [female] friends, and we were all drinking. I was like, Hey, why don't you make out? And then they started to! I was like, oh, damn, they're awesome. I don't know why I thought it would be OK to ask them. We were just testing them -- but then they did it. I told them that made them 10 times cooler." By nature, something that is empowering makes girls feel strong," says Weill. "Girls don't express to me that they feel strong after [hooking up with other girls]. 'Empowering' is scoring the lead in a school play or winning a spelling bee. Being sexually manipulative is not empowering." If like myself, you were a male coming of age in the 90s, this may very well have been your first…shall we say, excited moment. It’s also probably one of the many moments in the 90s you wished you were Kevin Bacon. To this day, widely regarded as the quintessential female makeout scene, and one of the most frustrating “almost nipple” moments in cinematic history. ROSE MCGOWAN HAS PROBABLYacted in more horror movies than she’s seen. When she appeared in Scream, she had to make lots of knowing references to films she had never watched. “All they do now is think about ways to torture women, primarily,” she says. “I don’t really get that. What is this, a manual for young, budding serial killers? Can’t we just go watch Pillow Talk?”
Naomi Watts is stunningly beautiful and probably always will be, and I’m honestly not that familiar with Laura Harring but she is a wonderful expression of femininity herself. The title “Girl on Girl Action” is deliberately provocative, capturing attention and raising curiosity. It challenges preconceived notions about sexuality and invites listeners to explore the fluidity of desire and personal connections. A: Heterosexual women who had performed this girl-on-girl behaviour had less healthy perceptions of their sexuality. They felt more discouraged or unhappy about their sex lives. They weren’t as direct or assertive about expressing their sexual needs, they felt less confident. They were more likely to say their sexual behaviours were controlled by people more powerful than them. The heterosexual women between ages of 19-25 also described themselves as being more likely to take part in sexual acts in which they weren’t comfortable.
Due to its provocative title and exploration of non-traditional relationships, “Girl on Girl Action” has been subject to some controversy. However, it has also garnered praise for its boldness and the important conversations it prompts. 10. How does Boyskout’s visual imagery contribute to the meaning of the song? Pamela Paul, author of "Pornified: How Pornography Is Transforming Our Lives, Our Relationships, and Our Families," agrees. Girls "aren't kissing other girls because they want to. They're doing it because they want to appeal to boys their age. And for boys their age who've developed sexually alongside Internet porn, their sexual cues are affected by the norms and standards of porn. And that's girl-on-girl action." Deborah Tolman, director of San Francisco State University's Center for Research on Gender and Sexuality and the author of "Dilemmas of Desire: Teenage Girls Talk about Sexuality," says the term for the "I'm straight but I'll kiss girls" mentality is "heteroflexible." "It's engaging in same-sex behavior that ultimately is a way to confirm your heterosexuality," she says. It's "I went there, I tried it, I'm really straight. 'Bi-curious' is a more authentic concept: I think I may enjoy being sexual with a girl." In the case of females who get it on solely for male enjoyment, it's not at all about experimenting with females, Tolman says. "The motivations aren't about your own desires, they're about getting guys excited and looking hot. It's ironic because they're engaging in sexual behavior, which is supposed to look like it's about sexual desire. The crucial part of that is that they make sure no one thinks they're actually lesbians."
We’re eating burgers at House of Pies, an authentically tatty diner in Los Feliz. McGowan is small enough that our booth seems to swallow her up. She’s almost literally incoherent from hunger, but as her blood sugar finds its equilibrium, she regains her customary state of mind: funny, acerbic, just a bit contemptuous of the idiocy of the world she has to live in. In this author’s humble opinion, these are two of the most gorgeous women to grace the earth, so of course it made the list! It also doesn’t hurt that it occurs within a pretty damn good movie. God bless you, Darren Aronofsky.
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A: Most of the heterosexual women who had engaged in this behaviour in my study really described the outcome in negative terms. They made comments like they were embarrassed – they felt awkward and regretful. Some of them said ‘I felt really coerced in this situation.’ One of the participants said ‘I was really confused because men asked us to do it and then called us sluts and nymphos after.’ These women say it's no big deal to kiss another woman -- especially if alcohol has loosened inhibitions all around. Same-sex behavior is more accepted, particularly on campus, and proving that you're "cool enough" to kiss another girl without worrying that your peers will question your sexuality is an example of how open our sexual culture has become. But is this staged bisexuality really a testament to a type of hypersexualized girl power -- or a statement on how far gals will go to please a generation of guys weaned on online porn? And what does it mean to girls who are actually coming out as queer to see straight girls playing bi for male pleasure? Before you even ask, we know there are probably a million more scenes that could’ve been considered for this list, but we’re a blog, not skinimax, so research the rest on your own time.
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