Leadership and Self-Deception: Getting Out of the Box (AGENCY/DISTRIBUTED)

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This is a hard book to read - not because the language or ideas are lofty (just the opposite, the ideas have been made extremely accessible) -- the reason this book was hard to read, is because it nearly forces you to take a hard look at the way you live, the way you treat others, and the way you navigate through business, personal, and other situations.

Tons of real-life examples are used, and the story just makes you wanna keep reading to find out the next step in getting out of the box. Coming back to the example of the baby crying at night: if you do not act on your desire to be helpful and kind to your spouse, you will feel a strong need to justify this inaction. While he was focused on changing the direction of his company, Lou and his son began exchanging letters during the two months of the wilderness program. After the first chapter or two, there are no new ideas expressed; merely a rehashing of the same idea over and over again through somewhat tedious dialogue and story-telling. A woman who was reading a newspaper had an empty seat beside her and offered to take another seat so Bud and his.

Its insights are applicable to both professional and personal relationships, leading to improved communication and understanding.

I assume the story format is aimed to make the read easier to get through and understand, but instead it felt like a local TV commercial with a bad script. For example, if you are in a relationship and always blame your partner in every fight and disagreement, you will begin to focus on your partner’s faults so intently that you completely ignore your own mistakes and shortcomings. WHAT is this fantasy-story-loving girl doing reading a book that demands shelving on the business/psychology shelf? You can apply the concept of self-deception to (1) interviewing and hiring, (2) leadership and team building, (3) conflict resolution, (4) accountability transformation, (5) personal growth and development, and (6) marriage and parenting. If an argument ensues, you will also see your own behavior as more reasonable and measured than your spouse’s.This book shows how resistance, in all its subtle forms, creeps into and undermines intervention efforts. If you’re a leader, you’ll create an atmosphere of responsibility where people focus more on getting work done instead of blaming others. A really cool concept that reminded me of a class that I took this past semester on how we know the right thing to do but do the opposite — self-damaging impulses; it was good to see this applied in a professional/workplace setting. Part of the reason I liked, yet am still also a bit conflicted about it, fits into a term coined by my friend Nathaniel. Due to the damage self-deception does to us and those around us, it is crucial to understand how we become infected ourselves and what the underlying causes for our infection are.

I can pick up any other psychology or spirituality book written from an academic standpoint and learn in 2 chapters what this book stretched out for 200 pages.Given this book has been around for a while, it is probably too late to change either of these terms. The book isn't written by one person, but rather by an organization (Arbinger Institute) that was founded by Dr. You might think for example, that it is always you who gets up, or that you have something important in the morning so you should be allowed to sleep. It’s rare to find a business book that is good enough to recommend to your boss, your work team, and your friends. They grasp the underlying message of how she feels about people; the words themselves are secondary.

For example, when you blame your spouse for not caring enough about your wishes regarding your holiday destination, you need to find a justification for this view. This is because when things go awry, if we are self-deceived we see others as inferior to ourselves, so we tend to naturally blame them. Another way in which self-deception hurts us is that we actively seek out and even provoke faults in others so as to justify our own low view of them.It went so quick and easy that I am actually planning to listen to it at least one more time really soon.