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In these pages, she teaches lay readers and helping professionals alike • why all emotions—even the most painful—have value. The second way is by looking for your Cs and seeing if you can make a conscious shift into being them just by being aware and applying your emotional energy.
HILARY JACOBS HENDEL received her BA in Biochemistry from Wesleyan University, and an MSW from Fordham University. You do n0t have to act on emotions, and in most cases, you probably won't, but the information these impulses give you is important. Useful if the cause of your negative emotions is in the past, or if you have any positive emotions available to feel now. In It's Not Always Depression , pioneering psychotherapist Hilary Jacobs Hendel reveals the most effective techniques for putting us back in touch with the emotions we too often deny - methods which can be used by anyone, any time, anywhere. Additionally, if we own the damage we did with our actions, whether we did it on purpose or by accident, can be healing.Traditional therapy focuses on people’s thoughts and stories while AEDP is a healing methodology that helps people connect with their core emotions.
He could barely bring himself to speak, and his voice, when I managed to get anything out of him, was meek. I am currently listening to your audiobook and it’s definitely in my top most influential and helpful books. I don't want to explain further because I'll have to talk about my experience, and it just feels very personal to me. The main rules of the book are simple: 1) You're gonna feel however you're gonna feel and that's okay. To add to this, the author did mention something about trauma, but it's not the FULL ON/REAL DEAL trauma that some people expected when reading this book.It is because the real reason behind it was my fear and shame that developed in me growing up with neglectful parents and constant chaos at home. Her approach reminds us and focuses on our innate drive to health and teaches how to use that more effectively.
Can I access compassion now, even though I may also be having other emotions like fear, sadness, or anger? You can find Hilary's blog and other FREE resources on emotions and the Change Triangle at hilaryjacobshendel.She shows us how to work the Change Triangle in our everyday lives and chart a deeply personal, powerful, and hopeful course to psychological well-being and emotional engagement. Whereas conventional therapy encourages patients to talk through past events that may trigger anxiety and depression, accelerated experiential dynamic psychotherapy (AEDP), the method practiced by Jacobs Hendel and pioneered by Diana Fosha, PhD, teaches us to identify the defenses and inhibitory emotions (shame, guilt, and anxiety) that block core emotions (anger, sadness, fear, disgust, joy, excitement, and sexual excitement).
Those were really helpful in seeing how the triangle plays out, but I really could have used a bit more time dedicated to understanding the parts of the triangle better. As a psychiatrist and therapist for over 40 years I have always encouraged my patients to pay attention to how they are feeling and thinking. Imagine a calming place, such as the beach: feel the sun on your skin, hear the sound of the waves, feel the cool sand against your feet, see the water.Bruce Perry, I could connect some of the topics regarding trauma, the effects on our bodies, and how trauma can be treated and healed. Try other activities that lower anxiety: Cook, play music, stretch or do yoga, make something artistic, read a good book, watch something funny or sad on TV, take a warm bath, make yourself tea, take a walk, masturbate, or meditate. He looked a bit surprised but said yes, so I grabbed a small cushion off my sofa and tossed it to him. If I notice that either my partner or I am in a defensive mode, can I get curious about the emotions underneath? I’ve also read other therapy books where the example cases are far more illuminative and helpful than those given here.
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