You were both virgins and felt so ­comfortable in each other’s company that you were able to share one of the most special moments of your lives together. Clare said again, “Come on Tom! Don’t worry, I won’t tell mummy, but I might if you don’t let me have a look!” And the best part? You probably have most of the materials lying around already. Talk about a holiday miracle! I think you can be glad that you lost your virginity to someone close who you respect and feel at ease with, but I’d be wary of turning this into something else before you’ve experienced other relationships. Most Read This exciting adventure was repeated every bedtime. Aunt Frances had a large washing machine and I don’t think she examined my pants before putting them in the wash, which was just as well! All went well for a few days. Then the sky darkened and the rain poured down! Uncle Mike was at his office, of course. Aunt Frances was visiting some friends for the day, and Clare said she would be at the farm attending to her pony until lunchtime. I couldn’t go fishing in that weather, so I said I would stay at home and read the set book from school, which I’d been told to read in the holidays. (It was The War of the Worlds!)

We had a good time together and are longing to see each other again, but my friends think sex with a cousin is incest and is wrong. At the time of the following exciting adventure we were sixteen, but I was a few months older than she was.What you’ve done isn’t illegal but what you have to realise if you want to continue this relationship is some people won’t approve. Your parents probably won’t. Ready to turn your home into a winter wonderland that would make the North Pole look like amateur hour? Let’s transform your space into a festive paradise that even Rudolph would be proud of. It had been a long six months, and after several failed attempts at pulling, I was optimistic about a trip to Barcelona. A friend and I jetted off for a long weekend of sunbathing, drinking, and trying to get laid. We’d gone on a bar crawl, and found ourselves chatting to a group of Australians. We all had a lot to drink, and about 4am, my friend and these two Australian guys decided to go skinny dipping – except my friend ending up arguing with the guy she was getting with, leaving me and the other guy alone. It was the perfect opportunity – and what’s more pleasingly cliche than shagging in the sea on holiday? It started to heat up – we were naked in the sea on a deserted beach after all – and then he chose that moment to tell me he’d just proposed to his girlfriend of four years, who’d said no, and he didn’t know if he could go through with this. Cheers mate. Sophie If the shoe were on the other foot, I don’t know if I would have had the strength of character to allow Andy to sleep with another woman. But then, that’s just one of the million, tiny little things I love about him.

After that Monday, I distanced myself from Tom. Closing that door has put me in a better headspace and my relationship with Andy has improved immeasurably. He says he has forgiven me – it’s easier for him to lay the blame almost entirely on Tom. But I know I’m equally culpable. And that’s something I’m struggling to come to terms with.

I went down to my parents’ place in Cornwall for a romantic weekend with the guy I was seeing. I was under the impression they wouldn’t be there that weekend. We had music on and this guy was lying down on a fur rug in the middle of the living room floor – me on top – when my mum and dad walked in. They hadn’t realised I was going to be there and definitely hadn’t expected to walk in on their daughter completely naked, straddling someone they’d never met, in their house. Andy and I recently celebrated our second wedding anniversary and are buying a new flat – a fresh start. There’ll be many reading this who’ll think he’s weak for staying with me or that I’m a horrible person for abusing his trust, and I suppose there’s a modicum of truth to both. After telling him I was on the Pill, he realised what I had in mind and minutes later we lost our virginity, which felt wonderful. Either way, your house is about to become the talk of the North Pole. We’re not just sprucing things up; we’re turning them upside down with a dash of creativity and a sprinkle of holiday spirit.