Stop believing you are fundamentally broken, - Stop judging yourself by the standards of a neurotypical world, - Communicate your struggles to those who love you, - Support someone with ADHD in ways that work for them, - Be compassionate rather than judgemental, - And much more.

Filled with heartbreak and humour in equal measure, DIRTY LAUNDRY is an invaluable resource both for neurodivergents and the people who love them. One option is to take your dirty laundry to a friend’s or parent’s house or a laundromat the same day each week (call it “Laundry Tuesday”) and not depart until everything is sorted and folded. Being in a laundry space, or working with a buddy, keeps you focused and on-task. If you have ADHD - or love somebody who does - DIRTY LAUNDRY will change your life, and your relationships. Do you feel crippling shame because you struggle with cleaning, personal hygiene, or time-keeping? Do you always feel misunderstood by the people close to you and find that they get frustrated by your behaviour? This book breaks down all the shame and stigma that gets in the way of meaningfull relationships and provides all parties with a roadmap forward. We have definitely spent years arguing about chores, dinner, being organised, etc and honestly seeing that it is the same for other couples is a relief. I now try not to get frustrated and remember that we see things differently, and that assistance and gentle reminders really go a long way!From the viral TikTok duo, @ADHD_Love comes a tried-and-tested, no-guilt and no-shame guide to self-love and navigating relationships with ADHD Rich, Rox's husband, is unapologetically frank in offering his side of the story and wholly compassionate towards not only the severity of the condition his lovely wife lives with, but supportive and understanding of the condition itself. It's very clear that he is actively doing his best to not only support her, but that he accepts Rox exactly the way she is and loves her unconditionally. Together, they are living their lives in a way that suits them BOTH - this is not a case of 'pandering' to Rox's ADHD symptoms. It's a husband and wife team utterly in love and both doing their absolute best to support one another. The fewer clothes you have to wash, the easier the laundry process. Try minimizing your wardrobe to only the clothes that you really need and that suit your lifestyle. (This is easier said than done, especially if impulse shopping is a habit!)

Filled with heartbreak and humour in equal measure, DIRTY LAUNDRY is an invaluable resource both for neurodivergents and the people who love them. The ultimate gift for anyone who wants to understand ADHD better. This book was AMAZING. It was the first book I have finished in years, I read it cover to cover on a plane ride unable to put it down.

Doing Laundry with ADHD: 5 Sanity-Saving Tips

From the husband-and-wife team behind social media phenomenon @ADHD_Love , whose viral videos have been viewed more than 200 million times , comes a fearless, often outrageously funny, account of life, learning, and growing with ADHD. If you have ADHD —or love somebody who does— DIRTY LAUNDRY will change your life, and your relationships. I had discovered your TikTok account and had shown my husband and he enjoyed them and we had a giggle about how “wow babe this really is you!!” Considering this, the most helpful part of this book should be that of the neurotypical teaching others how to treat people with ADHD, but Rich's part of the book was very hard to read. I kept feeling like he was talking about dogs. That whole "your ADHDer" thing that's said in almost every paragraph of the book was very painful to read. If you have ADHD - or love somebody who does - DIRTY LAUNDRY will change your life, and your relationships.

A book full of different couple’s Split View with coping mechanisms laid out could have been interesting, but again, the SAME example used by both persons just gets boring. The pair’s social media channels, @ADHD_Love, have more than 900,000 followers and their videos have been viewed more than 200 million times. They said: “It’s a rather scary thing, to share with the world that you struggle to shower and keep on top of laundry. To see those very vulnerable stories resonate with so many people has been incredibly heart-warming. ADHD can be very isolating so there is great comfort to be taken from realising that we are not alone. Rox, the 'ADHD wife', gives her honest and soul-bearing accounts of just how her ADHD has affected her whole life, giving us all the gory details and in so doing, helping me to feel not only like I'm not alone in these gruelling life experiences (no way am I alone!), but that this is so utterly commonplace nowadays that it's genuinely appalling that there isn't more medical help for this condition or more attention given to the science behind WHY this is considered a disability. Written with kindness and compassion, it not only gives practical solutions, but it normalises the struggles, and gives validity to both ways of perceiving what is going on so there's s understanding.DIRTY LAUNDRY is an unfiltered look into the chaos of real life with ADHD. It will transform your self-hatred into self-acceptance, with simple tips that actually work for your brain. It will also help to educate partners, parents and friends, to help them move from frustration to patience, understanding - and love. An empowering and witty guide to banishing shame and living your fullest life with ADHD—plus tips for loved ones on helping them navigate this world, too—from viral duo ADHD_Love. Dirty Laundry is an unfiltered look into the chaos of real life with ADHD. It will transform your self-hatred into self-acceptance, with simple tips that actually work for your brain. It will also help to educate partners, parents and friends, to help them move from frustration to patience, understanding - and love. Thank you for reading ADDitude. To support our mission of providing ADHD education and support, please consider subscribing. Your readership and support help make our content and outreach possible. Thank you. Save

The crux of their ADHD_love_ videos highlights the day-to-day of a couple where one of them is an adult with ADHD (diagnosed late, as an adult) and feeling their way through it. Also they depict how a relationship works when one of you is neurotypical and the other one isn't. These are funny, true, and sometimes unexpectedly touching, and the book brings all of this to the table. If anything, it's even more nurturing. It's clear they've both done a lot of work in therapy (separately and probably together) and they pay it forward to people (like myself) who are fresh on their journey and still processing. Rox’s humour and honesty amidst the tumult of coming to terms with the 10 key symptoms of her adult ADHD diagnosis, and Rich’s commitment to learning, gently challenging and empathising, will no doubt provoke ’a-ha!’ moments in many couples, families and friendships—as they did for me. I couldn’t think of a better duo to tell this unfiltered story of acceptance, self-love and mutual compassion.” Thank you both so much for this book. My therapist loved it after I suggested she read it and I love it to. Thank you both so much for your content and helping people with ADHD 🥰I had watched things and researched ADHD before years ago when I was struggling but recently I helped a friend with learning about her own ADHD and when looking for links I found Roxy and Rich right as their star was rising. Roxy's hair is definitely eye-catching but her willingness to share was therapeutic. But Rich was what mainly caught my attention - I'd never seen someone so in tune with ADHD who didn't have it. Somehow she'd gotten through to him... or he figured it out... I couldn't help but watch ALL their videos. The two of them make a lovely pair - and now this book! I have read countless books on ADHD since being diagnosed about 8 years ago. While this book is not the most “scientific”, it was the most profound and helpful for me emotionally. You won’t find typical advice in here (you know the advice all of us have tried and failed at again and again) - this book is more about connecting with and accepting yourself. There is practical advice in working WITH your ADHD and good advice for partners. The portion for partners is wonderfully geared towards reframing your mindset towards your ADHDer along with small shifts in the way you approach/help them. Do you feel crippling shame because you struggle with cleaning, personal hygiene, or time-keeping? Do you always feel misunderstood by the people close to you and find that they get frustrated by your behaviour?