Cakes are special. Every birthday, every celebration ends with something sweet, a cake, and people remember. It’s all about the memories.”– Buddy Valastro The secret of staying young is to live honestly, eat slowly, and lie about your age.”– Lucille Ball Tell them never to listen when bodies are critiqued. Tell them every woman’s body is beautiful because every woman’s soul is unique.”– Nikita Gill I’d like to wish myself a happy 21st birthday. As I’m 21, I’m overwhelmed and on this birthday, I desire to discover all those treasures that are hidden inside me!

On this very day, one of the greatest humans in the world was born. Oh, and so did I! Happy Birthday to me! Try this: Write down what you do each day to show your gratitude for things that happen in your life. Some of us respond better to visual stimuli, so take a day to photograph all the things, moments, exchanges, and people you are grateful for having in your life. 7. Future Self Example

It is in the healing of self-blame and judgment, that the self is liberated from the constraints of binding emotions…And you come to remember your true authentic self.”– Wendy Slater If it’s your job to eat a frog, it’s best to do it first thing in the morning. And If it’s your job to eat two frogs, it’s best to eat the biggest one first.” Mark Twain

Letters of gratitude also help remind you of all you have to be thankful for now and in the future. Self-love steers us away from people that aren’t good for us. It stops us from spreading our arms out to let in bad behaviour, negative vibes or actions that reduce our self-worth/actions that don’t respect us. Self-love stops us from allowing empty promises, half-hearted love and the kind of pain that we could have avoided if we had prioritised ourselves. There are both good and the bad that persist in this world but you don’t have to focus on the bad. The only thing that you have to focus on is how much good you can spread, how much goodness you can multiply. How better you can become in making the world a better place to live in. One of the most tragic things I know about human nature is that all of us tend to put off living. We are all dreaming of some magical rose garden over the horizon instead of enjoying the roses that are blooming outside our windows today. Dale Carnegie This is your past self, I'm glad you have your license and many more accomplishments you have achieved so far. Just know it wasn't easy. Stay humble and realize where you came from. Take a minute to reflect on the things you struggled on and cried about. The support you have, the love you showed and many more. You are a boss babe and a boss mom. You wanted this so bad so your children can live the life you always wanted and never have to worry about anything. Break generational curses and be the one who makes millions have more money and gives the most. Don't stay where you are now, elevate to the highest point you can and continue to go forward. Have a healthy mind and a healthy body. Have an incredible life experience, which includes all the things you want. Better: person, money, love life, best friend, family, relationship, pay. No hate or evil things can bring you down as long as the universe is within you. Self-supporter

May this day bring countless happiness and endless joy and live with peace and serenity to me!”– WishesMsg

Ruby has written articles on healing, self-love, heartbreak, relationships, mental health, culture and feminism in various online magazines such as The Tempest, Thought Catalog, Indian Woman Blog and Vocal Creators Platform. Ruby has appeared in two YouTube documentaries and several podcasts. Ruby has been interviewed and performed at the BBC Asian Network and BBC Radio London. She has also performed at several open mic nights, charity events, schools, the Trafalgar Square and The British Museum, to name a few.In 'Dear Self', Ruby talks about heartache, loneliness and relationships and takes it even further by diving into fear, insecurities, strength, commitments, the power of pain, what self-love/self-worth mean and self-discovery in light of one's healing journey. Fall in love with taking care of yourself. Fall in love with the path of deep healing. Fall in love with becoming the best version of yourself but with patience, with compassion, and respect to your own journey.” Sylvester McNutt It is so important to take time for yourself and find clarity. The most important relationship is the one you have with yourself.” Diane Von Furstenberg For the sake of clarity and to avoid letters that ramble on endlessly, choose a few topics to add to a letter. I try not to write about more than two or three topics per letter to keep things as clear as possible. I may also use creative headings to help split where one topic begins and another ends. Digital letters are less personal, but you can add images, voice notes, and videos to make these more interactive. Handwritten letters have personality and show how you were feeling at the time of writing the letter. There’s something deeply personal about writing each letter by hand.